In moments of digital distraction, Instagram is my source for recipes, quips, and words of encouragement that I share freely. Recently, I read a new understanding and definition of A.S.A.P. that might guide and center us when we experience angst, discomfort, or something that feels off. You will not read of a new way or discovery but possibly be reminded to make space for being.

The traditional meaning of the four letters is about speed, hurry, and a hint of something that should have been done. Perhaps something with a looming deadline that was forgotten, and there is a window of reprieve. These are certainly not the letters I want in the subject of an email. What might be a new way of thinking?

A. As Slowly As Possible

What is the rush? Where are we going in such a frenzy? In our haste, we miss the simple gifts and pleasures of each day. The warmth of radiant sun, the blush from a breeze of fresh air, the caw of a bird, the silence. If we slow down, there is much we will realize, much to be grateful and give thanks for, even in our manic world. Breathe, open your eyes.

S. As Softly As Possible

In tone of voice, in criticism or feedback, in judgment, in assessment — can we respond with empathy and kindness? Can we accept that we are doing our best to manage and cope with our burdens, challenges, and pain? Can we hold onto the notion that much of our baggage is unseen? Can we be curious, ask more questions, and take time to see our brother or sister? We might see a reflection that looks much like ourselves. What surprise and delight awaits.

A. As Sustainably As Possible

Whether you believe in the effects of global warming or not, can we think about sustainability as awareness of the tension between things we do now and possible future impact?

Consider your body. You eat clean and drink water. These behaviors support well-being and a chance of your sack of water, your body having the longest run possible.

What can we do today that might make the space you are in better for someone else? Begin small. If the laundry is sorted by color (I do), it makes washing orderly and prevents colors from running. Ah, too basic? Think about your car. Regular maintenance means the lifespan of that vehicle could be extended, and mileage multiplied.

P. As Sincerely As Possible

Being the authentic you with dents, dings, scrapes, and badges is the first sincere action you can take. Being you is easier than pretending. Save fiction for reading.

Act with your best intentions and believe others are acting the same. Observe body language and listen to what is not being said. Bless everyone, and leave space for grace and exit. Make being offended a choice, not a reaction. Yes, simpler said than done.

Leave comparison to things, not people. Be the very best version of yourself — one day at a time.

Allow. Space. And. Pause.

We face demands on our time and attention that often exceed 24 hours. Work, family, relationship needs, self-care, growth, and actualization, will there ever be time enough? I complain – one more thing.

So, for our best lives, we need to limit sugar and fats, exercise, find time for meditation, declutter, stimulate our brains, floss, drink 60 liters of water, get fresh air, be engaged in something fun or recreational, save money, plan for retirement, limit screen time, drink less alcohol or not at all, refrain from or quit smoking, set boundaries, and practice gratitude. Exhausting.

What then? Here is my short prescription.

• Uncover joy in spaces and places unexpected
• Be kind to yourself
• Recognize your imperfection – we are a work in progress – when you know better, you do better
• One day, one life – go for it
• Embrace the moment
• Laugh at yourself and in the company of others

As you consider the six remember the importance of tribe as my dear friend David Rynick, shares in Community Possibilities. (Wandering Close to Home A Year of Zen Reflection, Consolation and Reveries)

We come together to accomplish what we cannot do on our own. We come together to fulfill the deepest longings of our hearts. If we are able to bear the inevitable difficulty and confusion, then we can perhaps receive the blessings of connections that nourish us and make our lives rich and meaningful.

(with permission)